Smell The Roses

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I had a very interesting conversation over breakfast at the coffee shop, it was interesting because not always do you see a couple of ladies sitting down for coffee and talking about Cigar! Yes a rare sight indeed.
My coffee tastes like something snapping at the back of my throat.  It was strong, then bitter that it made me wince, I close my eyes and savour the taste it feels warm almost like wrapping oneself in a comfort blanket but afterwards i feel strangely refreshed, and even excited. I could take on the world.

I turned around, inhaling every bit of the aromatic air in, the man at my extreme right caught my attention, he was reading a book and smoking a Cigar! He made it look like an art the way and manner he handled his pipe.

I can’t quiet say what trapped my thoughts between the drags and the puffs or the rich earthy aroma that filled the room. Each time he puffed, he produced a cloud of smoke that came out in circles like the big letter O and I held my gaze until it disperses.

He smoked with contentment and style, you can tell by the look on his face that he was happy almost like he knew some secrets to life and that with each drag he enriched himself the more. You must think I’m going nuts right!

Don’t get me wrong I will quickly lend my voice to support a no smoking campaign without any gain, but hey I’m not one to judge.

Growing up, my dad was a non-smoker but he sure did love his early morning tea, he drank that cup in complete silence and isolation mostly sitting at the balcony before breakfast.

I watched him from the living room window on many occasions, his gaze was directly at the huge mango tree in front of the house, he watched the birds chirp, something between the cool morning breeze and the sunrise brightened his day. He had such peace and calm all about him afterwards.

I was lost in these thoughts when my friend tapped me and whispered to my hearing Vee, quit starring, everyone has got their thing.

Ah yes! Everyone has their thing I replied, for me it is something as common as the rain – when it rains, i smell the damp earth, aromas rising from wet grass, I inhale the freshness and on some occasion, I have had an overwhelming urge to taste the loose earth.

It just has an instinctive calming effect on me, it stirs my memories and evokes strong feelings.

I have learnt to appreciate the simple things in life-the smell of a freshly baked cake-the hint of a perfume wafting in the air or the body scent of a loved one.

You probably think this girl is weird, the truth is that, our lives are apparently dominated by visual sense, and it does trigger much deeper emotional responses like the one I’m having right now.

Well, enough about Cigars, coffee and me.

This encounter did make me think hard about life’s simple pleasures that we often don’t acknowledge due to the hustle and bustle of life so take a minute to enjoy something simple may be, it can make a great difference in your daily life.
Here are some of the things I do to get by:

  • Your morning cup: Whether you have coffee or tea, black or sweetened, that first morning sip can be a wonderful wakeup call. As the warmth fills and awakens you, take the time to think of something you’re looking forward to that day.
  • Your Commute: The time it takes you to get to and from work is an excellent time to clear your mind so you’re ready to be productive in the morning or leave work stress behind as you head home. Don’t always be in a hurry; take in a bit of scenery!
  • Laughter: Don’t underestimate the power of a good laugh — you know, one that leaves your tummy hurting, believe me ,nothing works faster or more reliably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. So laugh harder at yourself and the world. After all, Laughter really may be the best medicine out there!
  • A sit out: You are probably constantly walking through public spaces without even noticing the green areas like Parks, Gardens etc. it can be the most relaxing areas to really stop and just watch the world go by for a moment.
  • Music: Has someone told you to snap out of it? Listening to any music of your choice can instantly put you in a good mood and boost your life. So turn up the beat and dance out your negative thoughts.
  • Keep in touch: Put your technology to good use. Amidst all the face booking, twitting, Whatsapps etc. try connecting with people on a more personal level and make a phone call! Hearing from old friends or family can be a comfort you didn’t know you needed.
  • Treats: Be it ice cream, chocolate, wine, brandy or ——-, *winks* it’s OK to indulge in a moment of sweetness. Don’t feel guilty, savour and love every bite, sip or ——– you deserve it.
    (Feel free to fill in the blanks, I’m not judging)
  • Take a walk: When the task at hand proves difficult, taking a walk may lead to more creative thinking than sitting, and you may be taking a step, or two, towards discovering something new that might help.
  • Sundowner: There is something about a sunset that gives us peace. While so many of us are rushing to finish work, get dinner on the table, watch our favourite TV shows , the earth is giving us a great gift -a moment of pure, unfiltered beauty. Take some time and watch the sun go down.

Whatever you choose to do, do it well and in moderation except for love!!

Learn to appreciate life and the beauty of the world around you.

Don’t take life so seriously!

It’s not like you are getting out here alive!!

Vivian Belford is a lover of God and all the good things life can offer, a girly girl who believes in having fun with whatever she does. She is currently starring in her own reality show titled, Living and Dying With a Smile! Her Mantra: *Put on some lip gloss,pour yourself a drink, sit back and have a really good laugh!* The world is one big comedy afterall!!!!